"Dominant Guide - Everyone Needs the Dominant/submissive Lifestyle"

 Everyone Needs the Dominant/submissive Life

By Master Crius. 2015-07-10 10:00:26-04

Much of our adult life is spent struggling to find our fit within relationships at home and at work.  We burn tremendous energy analyzing the words, scenarios, and decisions we must make in our relationships.  “Will I come across too pushy?”  “How do I let him know what I want?”  “I know what I need but I don’t know if she’ll go for it.”  “How do I get him to take control?”  “Why am I always the one to initiate?”  Likewise on the other side there is a person doing the same dance.  We leave so much unspoken about our needs and our true selves that miscommunication and unhappiness follow. 

Of course there are many factors in these mental tennis matches; the nature and history of the relationship, the natural and situational authority we have over someone else, the health and honesty of the pairing.  One would expect that with the right amount of effort, these relationships would be beneficial, long lasting and open.  However, this is not my observation.   I believe the uncertainty in our approach in answering these questions corrodes relationships and prevents intimacy.  Marriages collapse all too often for what seems like unexplained reasons.  What happens?   How do people get so out of alignment?  What are they not saying to each other?  What will it take for us to open up and be our true selves? 

I believe the answers to these questions lie within our understanding of role clarity and the Dominant/submissive dynamic. 

The Dominant/submissive world is no stranger to the topics in the BDSM erotic novels on the market today.  If you are reading these posts regularly, you must have some interest in this lifestyle and strive to learn the right way to live in a D/s relationship not based on pop culture.  Many of you may just be reading out of curiosity or haven’t yet made the leap.  While you will find many variations, the base structure and norms of the D/s lifestyle can make a dramatic difference in the relationship you have with your spouse or significant other.  Entering into the D/s world with your partner is an amazing way to open up and build real communication and cooperation.  Even if you aren’t into the various forms of pain/pleasure in BDSM, the role clarity and negotiation of a Dominant/submissive relationship brings dialogue and discussion that takes a relationship to a new level. 

Everyone needs the Dominant/submissive lifestyle and here’s why: 

1. Setting boundariesWe all have them but we don’t talk about them.   As a man, I have spent my life trying to figure out the boundaries of my sexual partners.  It always felt as if I was pushing my own agenda; sometimes with women willing and sometimes with women unwilling.  “What does she really want?”  “What emotional bruises does she have from some past lover that I don’t want to touch?”  “How far do I push her until she says no?”   We learn so much through trial and error without words ever being spoken.  Both parties end up dissatisfied or quietly settling for things as they are.  Having a more direct conversation about what you want to do, how far you think you want to go, and what role you want to play frees both parties to act.  How many couples do you know that sit down and draw up a written document about their sexual desires and limits?  I bet the answer is not many or more likely, none.  However it can be a powerful tool in creating dialogue and getting what you want. 

2.  Finding your power dynamicPower doesn’t exist to force an agenda.   Positive power exists only in balance.   If someone takes power, someone else must compromise and relinquish power.  When one unyielding power goes against another, nothing is accomplished.  It is this dance that requires work and openness.  Most couples continue this dance without knowing who is leading.   In the end, neither gets what they want.  This power struggle doesn’t just relate to sex.  It can be for any shared decision or activity in a couple’s life.  Role-based dynamics and decision making can change in many ways depending the topic or nature of the decision.  Whether it is financial, social or sexual, the dominant party in one may not be the same as another.  For example, I drive our sexual agenda without question but my wife is the lead on the design and colors in our house.   She loves me to lead her sexually and I have no desire or talent to design the look and feel of our home.  In both situations power is shared to a 100% level.  I have agreed to follow her lead and she has agreed to follow mine. 3. Following one’s true nature 

3. Each of us have a true self 

One that is open and honest and knows its strengths and weaknesses. One that can articulate needs and desires clearly without facades or masks. I find this is a crucial step in entering a D/s relationship and making it work. It is also the thing I see the least in vanilla couples around me. Are you someone that wants to be driven sexually by another or do you want to be in charge? Do you wish your spouse would suggest sexual situations for you to participate in? Or do you find yourself the aggressor? Are these missed expectations often frustrating? These are all symptoms of a lack of role clarity and communication. If you are often the person in the relationship that leads and you get energy out of being in charge, I would suggest that, at least sexually, you are a natural Dominant. If you enjoy your sexual time together but prefer to participate in your spouse’s agenda, perhaps you are naturally submissive.

I want you to take action. Find the places in your life where you feel these gray areas exist, decide if they are important to you, and then act on them. Here are some practical suggestions for getting started: 

Realizing and communicating these tendencies to each other could make all the difference.  You are both articulating your who you are, the role you fill, and at the same time, giving each other permission to fill them.  This clarity and freedom is empowering. 

I want you to take action.  Find the places in your life where you feel these gray areas exist, decide if they are important to you, and then act on them.  Here are some practical suggestions for getting started:

•  Look for the gray areas – Where are those places where you find the most conflict or the most anxiety between you two and drill down deep.  This is where the self-discovery starts. 

•  Find your true motivation – Why is this specific thing hard on one or both of you?  Be 100% honest with yourself. 

• Envision the future – What would bring you peace and fulfillment?  What role do you want in this area?

• Get specific – Discuss the details and put them down on paper.  This will give you a reflection point down the road. 

• Go for it – Embrace your relationship and push to be something better.  If you made it this far, it will be worth it.

Everyone needs the Dominant/submissive lifestyle.  It offers such amazing insight and opportunity to healthy couples wishing to fulfill their potential.  Lack of role clarity, on the other hand, creates opportunity for walls to be built and frustration to build.   First learning about self and then opening up to our spouse provides freedom and empowerment.  It allows us to act in ways that fit our true selves and the nature of our relationship.  We are free to participate in decisions without the dance between what we want and what we say we want.  With those bases established, we can get on to much more fun things!

In love and pain,Master Crius

Master Crius is a new member to the community and in his first year as a Dominant.He lives with his submissive (his wife) and 3 kids in the sleepy Midwest.

The pheromone feet of polar bears

Polar bears have given new meaning to sexy feet. Scientist had heard of anecdotal reports that polar bears sniff the tracks of other polar bears and will often follow those tracks but may prefer one track to another.

They speculated that there was something in footprints with gave information to other polar bears.

Other bear species leave scent information by rubbing their bodies and anal glands against trees and other objects. In the Arctic that’s not possible leading to the question of how the solitary bears find each other for mating over the vast distances of sea ice.

Megan Owen, of the Institute for Conservation Research at Zan Diego Zoo, California, in the US, and colleagues from Polar Bears International and the US Geological Survey, decided to investigate.

Their findings were published in the November 3rd edition of the Journal of Zoology

They had samples collected of the scent left by the feet of over 200 wild polar bears in the Arctic. They found pheromones and other chemical traces which bears could identify even in minute amounts and over lapses of time.

They offered the scents to 10 adult male and 16 adult female polar bears in zoos, some wild and some captive-born.

The zoo bears were more interested in scents left in the spring, and male bears especially interested in the scent of female bears, and even more so the ones in oestrus.

The also examined the paws of two female bears and discovered prominent sweat glands in the pads which could be used to communicate chemical information about such things as sex and physical health.

They may also use paws to tread urine into the snow and their paw fur as another marker and chemical tracer helping other bears to find them as they may range over thousands of kilometres in a season

Steven Amstrup, is a chief scientist with Polar Bears International. He says the bears have evolved this very unique method of attracting mates to fit their environment. He also expresses concern that climate change which means less ice and more broken ice may not be able to leave continuous trails and so prevent them finding each other in future, thereby threatening breeding.

Original Source: The pheromone feet of polar bears

Superior Sarah's Temporary Website Now Available!

Alright Footbitches! 

I've created a temporary website that I will be using until the relaunch of my official domain name www.superiorsarah.com

Until that time. You will find my content at the below web page link, and as usual on my Google+, Twitter and Facebook pages.

Superior Sarah's Temporary Website

Tributes can be sent via the SquareCash phone app, which is discrete and all you need to send funds to spoil me is my e-mail! superiorsarahllc@gmail.com

I love showing off my feet and provide content to any fan that finds me, so as such I expect Tributes to be sent in honor of my perfection, you can also contact me about ordering any of the following: Shoes, Socks & Nylons that are old nasty and no longer allowed to be included in my official collection and once purchased by you foot sniffing freaks I will indulge in a shopping splurge so they can be replaced. I also sell custom pics and video clips (no nudity, so don't even ask) and, of course, My Autograph.

Again, Tributes can be sent via the SquareCash phone app, which is discrete and all you need to send funds to spoil me is my e-mail! superiorsarahllc@gmail.com

Enjoy Foot Slaves! 
Superior

Reflexology: Alternative Medicine of Feet!

What you should know...

Reflexology is a form of bodywork that focuses primarily on the feet.

Theory

The underlying theory behind reflexology is that there are "reflex" areas on the feet and hands that correspond to specific organs, glands, and other parts of the body.

For example:

• the tips of the toes reflect the head
• the heart and chest are around the ball of the foot
• the liver, pancreas and kidney are in the arch of the foot
• low back and intestines are towards the heel

He believed that certain areas on the feet and hands were linked to other areas and organs of the body. This concept was furthered by physiotherapist Eunice Ingham into the modern practice of reflexology.

Practitioners believe that applying pressure to these reflex areas can promote health in the corresponding organs through energetic pathways.

Dr. William H. Fitzgerald, an ear, nose, and throat doctor, introduced this concept of "zone therapy" in 1915. American physiotherapist Eunice Ingram further developed this zone theory in the 1930's into what is now knows as reflexology.

The pressure may send signals that balance the nervous system or release chemicals such as endorphins that reduce pain and stress.

Keep in mind that the safety and effectiveness of alternative medicine, including reflexology, has not been scientifically proven and is largely unknown.
What will I feel?

Most people find reflexology for the most part to be very relaxing.

Reflexology shouldn't be painful. If you feel discomfort, be sure to tell the reflexologist. He or she should work within your comfort zone.

Some areas may be tender or sore, and the reflexologist may spend extra time on these points. The soreness should decrease with pressure.

If you're ticklish, not to worry. The reflexologist applies firm pressure to the feet.
How is it different from foot massage?

Foot massage is similar to Swedish massage, the most common type of massage in North America. People typically use massage oil or lotion and use gentle gliding strokes all over the foot. Reflexology is quite different. While many people find reflexology relaxing, it's based on the theory that certain points on the feet correspond to certain organs and body parts and that applying pressure to the areas can promote health in the corresponding parts. 

Why do people get reflexology?

• Stress and stress-related conditions
• Tension headaches
• Digestive disorders
• Arthritis
• Insomnia
• Hormonal imbalances
• Sports injuries
• Menstrual disorders, such as premenstrual syndrome (PMS)
• Digestive problems, such as constipation
• Back pain

Reflexology is a popular alternative therapy. It promotes relaxation, improves circulation, reduces pain, soothes tired feet, and encourages overall healing.

Reflexology is also used for post-operative or palliative care. A study in the American Cancer Society journal found that one-third of cancer patients used reflexology as a complementary therapy.

Reflexology is recommended as a complementary therapy and should not replace medical treatment.
What is a typical reflexology treatment like?

A typical treatment is 45 minutes to 60 minutes long and begins with a consultation about your health and lifestyle.

You are then asked to remove your shoes and socks and sit comfortably in a reclining chair or on a massage table. Otherwise you remain fully clothed.

The reflexologist will assess the feet and then stimulates various points to identify areas of tenderness or tension.

The reflexologist then uses brisk movements to warm the feet up. Then pressure is applied from the toes to the heel according to your comfort.

Lotion or oil may be used.
How will I feel after?

Most people feel calm and relaxed after a treatment. They may even feel sleepy.

Occasionally, people feel nauseous, anxious, or tearful, but this is only temporary and is considered to be part of the healing process.
Caveats

If you're considering the use of reflexology, talk to your doctor first.

Be sure to give the reflexologist a complete and accurate health history. If you have foot ulcers, injury, blood vessel disease such as blood clots, other conditions or are pregnant, reflexology may not be appropriate or safe. Consult your doctor before having reflexology.

Original Source: http://altmedicine.about.com/od/therapiesfromrtoz/a/Reflexology.htm

The Den of Smelly Feet

Looking for a good online community to join? The Den of Smelly Feet has lots of active members who share the same interests. I recommend everyone check them out, there are lots of short stories and written experiences, many other forum topics and it's a great network of people.

The Den of Smelly Feet

Check them out! I'd also love to hear about other online sites that my readers find interesting.

I will compile a final list and put it up!

Superior

Female Domination Role Play Abductor/prisioner

If you haven't heard of Elise Sutton, then I'm astonished you have found your way to my blog... Here is a great role playing scenario that I found on her website. Link listed below.

Superior Sarah

Preparation.

I had my husband clean out a small storage room in our basement. I had him move out all of the junk that was in it, as I told him that I needed it to store something special. A few days later I had him meet me in a dark parking garage. I told him that it was a surprise.


The Abduction.

His car pulled into the mostly abandoned garage next to my car. I was wearing a leather mask, my
Gestapo hat, dark glasses, and a trench coat. I addressed him as if he was a stranger and I asked
him if he could help me lift a box out of the back seat of my car. As he reached in to pick up the
small box, I pushed him face down onto the seat. I sat on him, holding him down as I stuffed a pair of
my panties into his mouth. I took out a pair of handcuffs from my coat pocket and I handcuffed his
hands behind his back. I than placed a blindfold on him and I informed him that I was kidnapping
him.


I drove him back to my house and I parked in the back. I told him not to try to run, or he would be
hurt. I placed a collar around his neck and I lead him by a leash into the basement door.


I lead him into the small storage room that he had previously cleared out for me. I stripped him
naked, cutting his shirt off of him with a pair of scissors, and I pushed him onto a chair sitting in the
middle of the damp floor of the basement storage room. I tied him to the chair securely and
removed his blindfold. His hands were still cuffed.


I than removed my trench coat to reveal that I was only wearing a leather bra, a leather thong, a
leather garter, and fishnet stockings. I kept my mask and hat on. 

I informed him that he was my prisoner and that I was going to blackmail his wife to withdraw all of
his money from the bank and drop it off in a black bag in a garbage can in the city park, or she would
never get her husband back. I made the imaginary telephone call to his wife right in front of him so he could hear all of the details. I told her to make the drop at midnight.


I then informed my prisoner that I thought he was attractive and that I was going to force him to
sexually please me. First, however, I was going to torture him because I didn't like men as a gender
and I love to punish them.


I took my high heel shoes and I placed them on a wooden crate that I sat right in front of him. I
forced him to stretch his bound body forward and to lick my shoes and feet. I than took my heel and
I lightly crushed his penis against the seat of the chair. I even jabbed his penis and balls with my
heel, causing him some pain.


I then began to verbally humiliate him and slapped his face. I told him that if his wife didn't make the
drop, I was going to keep him as my permanent sex slave. I then turned out all of the lights and went
upstairs, leaving him seated all alone in the dark. I left him there for about a half an hour, than I
returned.


I was carrying my riding crop and my cat'o nine whip. I untied him from the chair and I forced him
against the cold concrete wall. I uncuffed his hands and I tied them to the ceiling. I than gave him a
very hard whipping to his back, ass, and legs. I rotated between my crop and my whip. After the
whipping, I untied his hands and I forced him onto his back, on the cold floor. I straddled his body
and I forced him to worship my body. I placed my different body parts against his face and I
commanded him to lick. I stuck my breasts in his face, my leather thong covered pussy, and finally
I sat on his face and smothered him with my ass. I removed the thong and I made him tongue my ass
and my asshole. I straddled his face and gave him a golden shower. Afterward, I made him tongue my pussy clean.


Next, I gave him a bucket of warm, soapy water and a sponge and I told him to clean himself up. I
than re-cuffed him. I took the leash and I pulled him out of the storage room and over to a large table
I have in my basement. I laid onto the table and as I kept a firm grip on the leash as I pulled his face to my pussy. I commanded him to eat me. I made him to do this for a very long time. I had several
orgasms. 

I than re-tied him to the chair in the storage room. It was now around 11:30pm, and I told him that I
had to go collect his money. I went upstairs and changed, before I left the house for around a half an
hour. I returned with a black bag (an old bowling bag) and I told him that his wife had obeyed my
demands. I gave him a long, very passionate kiss before I untied him again. I lead him by the leash
back to my car, and I drove him back to his car in the parking garage. There I gave him one final kiss good-bye,  before I uncuffed him, pushed him out of my car, and drove away. I had my mask and hat on the entire time.


When he got home, I was his wife again and I scolded him for being so stupid to get himself abducted. I told him that he owed me for saving his life. To pay me back, he was going to have to be my personal slave and he could start right away by orally pleasing me. The poor dear, being dominated by two bitches in the same night.


(By Julie R. Louisville, KY) Original Source: http://www.femalesuperiority.com/

The Basics of Female Led Relationships

The 5 food groups, those areas men and women can negotiate in their relationship

The importance of the 5 food groups

Female led relationships exist because of the influence of the 5 food groups on relationships. Because FLR is not a true role reversal, the 5 food groups allow both partners to keep their roles and gender traits and much of their socialization to start, maintain and grow a healthy relationship based on "rules". Everyone has rules in their relationship, the understanding we come to when we couple up. The 5 food groups expose the best rules that both partners can live with and thrive under.

Overview

If you have heard it once you have a hundred times, a young women wants to change her man so she wins him, captures his interest then tries to change him only to be disappointed. Almost all problems in a relationship are summarized by the word "expectations". Although people might fight about finances or communication issues, they would not be fighting if expectations had been set. People for the most part don't communicate their expectations to their mates so they don't get met. Many people feel that they should just know. As one gets older we realize there is a better way, we say what we want and hear what they want and let the chips fall where they may.

Humanity is full parts and pieces, a complex web of what we are, who others are and what we are all shaped into, where we are adaptable and where we either refuse or cannot adapt. Think of those areas that you cannot change, or wont, as your core person. For me I am a giving and inquisitive person who gets a kick out of the success of others no matter what else I choose to do I will always be that person. Conversely I have adapted remarkably in many ways in my life to the situation I either create or find myself in. My ability to adapt is the part of my life I can change without destroying who I am. Of course people can allow themselves to be destroyed especially when they don't like who they are. All change can be painful but a willing spirit makes change an adventure.

Things that make up humanity

• Personal identity and experience
• Sexual identity and experience
• Cultural identity and experience
• Spiritual identity, or the lack there of, and experience
• Our connection to others (relationships, lovers, friends and family)
• Our connection a higher power or ideal
• Our conscience of life around us
• Our conscience of being aware
• Our ability to make choices
• The temperament we have
• How others see us
• Language

Perhaps not a comprehensive list but you can see that making changes is very difficult. Each of the elements in the list has attributes associated with them - if we take our connection to others we can add some attributes of relationships such as: decision making, life direction, time together.... Attributes are the things we most likely can change. All of us have all the things that make-up humanity and practice all the attributes that make up those things. Of course that is a long winded way of saying, humanity is complex.

You can agree that experience often changes relationships. You can agree that choices often change relationships. People sometimes get into relationships to change things like their personal identity (I married the high school team captain who was from a rich family because I wanted to take on that identity, I wanted to change my identity). After a while in life we become more "baked", know more about who we are and what we want; so changes are harder. There are 5 elements of relationship common to us all that often cause issues for couples that we can change and often we successfully negotiate them; I call these the 5 food groups. They are the basis for all the control we share as mates. Finances and Free Time are the big two. With these two you have the bulk of control.

The 5 food groups

• Finances - Financial control has long been the domain of men, it is ultimate control of a relationship when a mate has no control they find it difficult to impossible to invoke change, take care of themselves or leave.
• Free Time - Time doing what you want comes after the decision to make time for others, time together, time apart, time for our common interests, time with friends -- all take away from our free time. Free time also includes decisions we make for our time that take an effort -- will he put the toilet seat down or clean up his socks; will she? It takes time to take the garbage out. His choices affect you, if you feel you must do something because he did not.
• Household Chores - if you have a maid, a gardener and a handy man then this just got easier but if not there is a lot of work to keeping a house going. There is laundry, shopping for food and sundries, taking the trash out. If you control time you likely also control chores because they can be added to a schedule and you can train someone to do it as you would. Management 101 - delegation of responsibility.
• Life Direction - A decision to move, improve one's education, have children, take on renting borders, make or leave friendships. Of course this takes time so one can control it with free time such as spend your free time in class improving our education. There is also the personal/spiritual/cultural/sexual direction of a person's life.
• Sex - We all want spontaneous sex but most of us have it at night in our bedrooms and it is likely something you have done before. Control of sex can mean yes or no, what and when, how, who, how much or how hard. Sex takes time too so controlling time is key to controlling sex.

Why are the 5 food groups important to FLR

 Controlling attributes of a relationship is how people lead. The 3 key parts of leadership are influence, management, and control. Whether you negotiate each time, make a plan and stick to it or have more controlling process, these 5 things will be done and getting/giving up control of them and possible others is what FLR is about. In male dominated traditional Christian relations the man is the head, the women is submitted to him as she would be to Christ. Head is another word for leader, and submitted is another word for giving up control. The reverse of FLR has been part of our culture for 2,000 years.

Level 2 Female Led Relationships

The big two (finances and free time) is what you should negotiate to control in a level 2 FLR. Your negotiation will have limits and likely not make you an autonomous leader with final authority. It is too much to expect but you can exert a great deal of control with his free time, get the benefits of help around the house and have more security because you are leading finances. Level 2 is not deep enough of a commitment on your part to expect full control of the big two. As you negotiate more, you move closer to level 3.

Level 3-4 Female Led Relationships

Once again full control does not mean he does not participate or does not have a vote or even a veto, it does mean you have final approval/authority to make dead locked decisions. You of course are free to negotiate full control so your word is law even if you are amenable to his participation in decision making. You have the reigns because you control all 5 food groups. You want him to remain the aggressor in sex, done!, you want him to shave and shower before bed, done! You can stop him from internet porn, masturbation, sexual fantasies (aside from those you are using to keep him interested), any other bad habit. He can go to counseling to figure out why he has feelings of failure (supposing he does), you can send him back to school, get him to rest more, help him lose weight and on and on. You can micro manage if you have the energy or set an agenda and guide.

Original Source: http://www.aboutflr.com/The-5-Food-Groups.html

5 Scientific Explanations for your Sexual Perversions

The thing about our sexual preferences is that we just accept them -- of course guys like boobs, and couples like kissing. Well ... why? Why don't we rub armpits instead? Why do so many people have foot fetishes? There has to be a reason.

And while maybe we can't explain your thing with puppets, science does have a few ideas about the other stuff we're into.

#5. Foot Fetishes Kept Us Free of STDs


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Looking to warn your kid away from sexually transmitted diseases? Try encouraging him to lust after feet. No, that isn't an excerpt from our parenting guide, So You're Stuck With a Baby: Tips for Making It Interesting. It's actually a sound theory based on some pretty badass science.

Feet are the most fetishized body part out there. There's no obvious reason why -- it's not like, say, a leather fetish, where everyone can look at Catwoman and say, "Yeah, I get that." You can't have sex with feet, and even if you could, would you want to? A lot of fungus lives there.


Condoms won't help, and lube just makes it worse.

Well, scientists wanted to know why, so they started digging. First of all, how did it get started? There are several theories, including one from an expert who says that sensation in the feet and genitals both transmit to the same area of the brain, so there could be some accidental crossover there. But why would it persist through thousands of years of evolution? The answer appears to be disease.


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And the tireless efforts of certain visionary directors.

Researchers collected history's records of foot-lust and compared it with the greatest STD outbreaks of the last thousand years: gonorrhea (the 13th century), syphilis (the 16th century, with an encore in the 19th century) and AIDS (the break-dancing years up to now). Scientists learned two things. The first was a greater appreciation for antibiotics, and the second was that foot fetishes are most prevalent in times of disease.

In other words, when our genitals know it's too dangerous to go outside, we start fantasizing about toes and bunions and the way sneakers smell. To test this theory, an intrepid band of sex researchers looked at the prevalence of feet in eight major pornographic publications from 1965 to 1994. Then they made a graph, because graphs are what get scientists off.


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You're welcome. Now clean yourselves up.

It's worth noting that a general obsession with feet also correlated with periods of greater female power, as if women themselves were taking away the usual goodies and substituting the third filthiest part of their bodies instead, just to show men what was what.

#4. Oral Sex Helps Prevent Miscarriages

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The nice thing about oral sex is all of it. No one gets pregnant, people who are virgins can stay virgins when they do it and according to the '90s, it doesn't technically count as sexual relations. Win-win-WIN. So it's easy to see why humans and animals and all things with genitals engage in oral sex in the first place. What's not so obvious is the evolutionary value of the act. It doesn't pass on the genes. And what do women get out of going downtown, other than an occasional free pass later on in the month?


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"Let me and my entire extended family visiting for the week explain after you cut the grass."

If Dr. Gustaaf Dekker is to be believed, she gets the benefit of safer future pregnancies ... but only if she swallows.

Among other things, there are unique proteins in every man's sperm, and the more "familiar" a woman is with her partner's semen, the more likely her uterus is to accept it when it's time to procreate. And according to science, or this scientist, anyway, the very best way to get familiar with your future mate's manseed is to digest it.


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Man gravy is good with beef and is best used as a garnish.

Dekker also found that pregnant women who practiced oral sex were less likely to have preeclampsia, a condition where the woman's immune system rejects her own placenta, presumably because she's less likely to recognize the fetus as a foreigner. Dekker puts it this way:

"If there's repeated exposure to that signal then eventually when the woman conceives, her cells will say, 'We know that guy, he's been around a long time, we'll allow the pregnancy to continue.'"



"He got a good job? He law abidin'? He better be."

Here's a hint to teenage boys everywhere: This is not the message you want to pass on to your girlfriend in the back seat of your car.

#3. Multiple Orgasms Exist to Encourage Freaky Group Sex


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We've previously speculated that the female orgasm was strictly a leftover of evolution, that the clitoris is wired to feel good during sex because it's really a pre-penis. But there are other theories about the purpose of the female orgasm out there as well. Such as the one about how orgasms are merely an award for getting freaky with multiple partners. And why would a woman want multiple partners? So none of them would murder her babies.


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"I want what every girl wants: a man who gets confused enough by orgasms that he forgets to kill my children."

According to one anthropologist, and also anyone with sexual experience, the female climax is a completely different animal from the male's. For one thing, it's harder to achieve. And for another, lots of women can have lots of them at once ... just over and over again. Men can't do that.

So Dr. Sarah Hrdy speculates that the orgasm was once an incentive for women to keep on mating once their first, or second, or third partner was done with his business. Because if she mated with lots of guys at once, none of them would know who had fathered her children. Which meant that killing off your rival's kids was impossible -- because they could be your kids. You Game of Thrones fans know what we're talking about here.


"No, his sociopathy is from his mother's side."

Dr. Orgasm's theory is backed up by observations in the animal kingdom. Langur monkeys are relatively (for monkeys) monogamous, and dominant males are all about infanticide in order to secure their rank as alpha male, and also to make the mom stop producing milk so she can mate again. And also because adult langur monkeys are monsters.


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"You know what part of a baby monkey tastes best? The tears."

But you don't find that behavior among macaques and chimpanzees, or at least not nearly as much. And sure enough, the difference is that macaques and chimpanzee females bone lots of different dudes. So, the female orgasm may very well be evolution's reward to women for hosting nasty ape sex parties.

#2. We Kiss to Get Close Enough to Detect Pheromones

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In this article, we explained the theory that kissing evolved as a way for women to expose themselves to cytomegalovirus so their future babies wouldn't get hit with a herpesesque disease in the womb. And man, is that the most unromantic explanation for kissing EVER. The good news is that there are other, less awful theories about smooching out there. One is that we've all got a secret sex nerve in our brains that compels us to swap spit.

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"My nose is telling me it's time to tongue your face-hole."

But first, some background. Everyone has 12 pairs of nerves jutting out of the brainstem, appropriately named Nerve I through Nerve XII. And most of them are regular sensory nerves, like the olfactory one and the optic one and the one that helps us see the dead. But in 1913, scientists discovered another nerve that everyone had missed before. "Nerve 0" (or, as we like to call it, Nerve Oooooh) sits at the base of our skulls, seemingly useless, like a third testicle on an already sterile old man. So it's not surprising that everyone kind of forgot about it.

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Although that doesn't make them shut up about it at parties.

So when scientists finally got around to figuring out what this nerve did, they discovered something funny. Even though it looked like an olfactory nerve, it was present in creatures that had long ago lost their sense of scent. Which means it must have some purpose in humans (and all other animals) besides making public transportation unpleasant. Shortly thereafter, scientists discovered that cuttingthis nerve caused mice to stop breeding.

It turns out Nerve 0 is directly connected to the regions of the brain associated with sex and gives your nose a direct, private highway to your genitals. Well, that's interesting. What could that be for?

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Stop having sex with those flowers and we'll tell you.

Scientists theorize that when you kiss someone, Nerve 0 picks up their pheromones and warns your body to start sending blood and good vibes down to your crotch as quickly as possible. It's important to note that Nerve 0 doesn't travel through your olfactory bulb at all, which means you can't actually smell any of the things your sex nerve is designed to pick up. And since our pheromones don't carry very well, getting close enough to kiss is basically the only way your Boning Nerve can do you any good.

And what kind of things does your brain learn by picking up pheromones this way? For one thing, it allows you to sneak a peek at your lover's immune system. People you're attracted to will tend to have been exposed to very different antibodies over the course of their lifetimes. This ensures that you have a lower chance of miscarriages and a higher chance of birthing superbabies with badass immune systems. It also stops you from finding your relatives sexually viable, so let's give it a round of applause for preventing a lot of awkward family reunions.

#1. Big Boobs Exist Thanks to the Missionary Position

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Here's a question we bet you never asked yourself: Why do guys prefer big breasts? Don't say it's because it signals that a woman is more capable of nursing -- huge boobs serve no practical purpose for the delivery of milk. Well, according to one theory, it has to do with our ancestors preferring face-to-face sex.

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"I call them 'shock absorbers.'"

The humble "missionary position" has the unfair reputation of being the boring option for couples too tired to try anything too crazy. But out in the animal kingdom, that position is crazy -- face-to-face sex is something of a revelation for mammals. Our ape ancestors preferred a much less ... frontal method. But the pair bonding that occurs when couples look each other in the eye while doin' it is beneficial enough to humanity that evolution favored people who had face-first sex.

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Also our heads were getting much larger during this time, and that shit gets heavy.

In The Naked Ape, British zoologist and ethologist Desmond Morris proposed that the social benefits to our ancestors who liked missionary-style sex were great enough that evolution favored frontal features that mirrored the backside. Namely, giant breasts that mimic the bulbous buttocks of our great-to-the-power-of-500 grandmas. As Desmond put it:

"The protuberant, hemispherical breasts of the female must surely be copies of the fleshy buttocks, and the sharply defined red lips around the mouth must be copies of the red labia."

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The first time he shopped at the greengrocers, he had to lie down in a dark room for three days.

Of course, Desmond, they must be. And that means that big breasts exist purely to compel attention. In other words, evolution masterminded the single most successful advertising campaign in world history.

Original Source: http://www.cracked.com/article_19834_5-scientific-explanations-your-sexual-perversions.html#ixzz3Smjka8tb

The Purpose of Paying Tribute & Real Female Supremacy

Last week, a submissive from San Francisco had the honor of serving Me. Towards the end of the session, he, well-meaning gentleman that he is, blurted out, “You have certainly earned your tribute.” If he wasn’t such a sweet puppy dog that ate food off the bottom of My boots earlier, I would have whipped him to the point of permanent trauma (responsibly of course).

Serving a Professional Mistress is not a cheap endeavor. Even by first-world standards, the majority of submissives must consider and budget before they withdraw $300+ from the ATM.

What is the purpose of paying tribute to a Mistress? In the inescapable truth so elegantly put into plain English by Adam Smith:

“The propensity to truck, barter, and exchange one thing for another is common to all men.”

In other words, your money for a Mistress’ time and discretion. That is the obvious answer — but tribute itself has roots grounded in ritual.

A submissive understands that he is categorically inferior to his Mistress in every regard. He relishes and delights in this notion of inequality, and this knowledge lies at the heart of behaving properly as a lowly slave. This way of thinking is a fetish in and of itself. He knows his place, and he worships the ground on which his Mistress walks in her pointy open-toe high heels.

Because he is not –and never will be – good enough for her, he must offer her tribute and gifts as a way to show gratitude for her allowing him in her presence. Paying tribute to your Mistress reinforces your lowered status in respect to hers. It is a symbol of your deference and just one of many demonstrations you make to ingratiate yourself with her.

Money is only one aspect of serving a Mistress. Servitude must begin with the proper attitude. It is a horse of a different color between a transaction defined by paying a woman to give you instant gratification, and offering tribute as a way to show your devotion and respect. There is a difference between a client… and a submissive.

My ball-fetching, boot-licking puppy dog did not understand (he does now) that a Mistress does not earn tribute. She expects it. It is but the first of many attempts a submissive makes in aiming to please her.

With that being said, My humble readers, I also recognize that there is an inherent, evolutionary law behind tribute that cannot be ignored. Men trade their resources for the company of women. This is a cross-cultural fact that is also present in other primates. Men understand that they themselves are not good enough for a woman, they must be able to provide — and this is the truth that feminism forgot. Men were never superior to women, never even equal to women. MEN WORK FOR WOMEN. The real whore is the man. The woman has done all the work the moment she was born.

Warren Farrell, American author, educator, and activist on men’s issues with women stated brilliantly:

“I am often asked why men don’t get as worked up as they might about women—particularly poor women—having to use their bodies as prostitutes. Because most men unconsciously experience themselves as prostitutes every day—the miner, the firefighter, the construction worker, the logger, the soldier, the meatpacker—these men are prostitutes in the direct sense: they sacrifice their bodies for money and for their families.”

(Is the man exploiting the prostitute’s body, or the prostitute exploiting the man’s libido?)

There you have it. The purpose of tribute serves reasons that are practical, philosophical, and universal. Real female supremacy is when a man devotes his life and energy to acquiring resources that a woman is naturally entitled to just by virtue of being female. We are the boss.

A Dominatrix embraces this reality of men and women. A Dominatrix is also on the side of men in that she understands them and the burden they have to carry, and thereby she grants them freedom from the burden of being a man.

Pay up and shut up.

Original Source: The Mind of Mistress Zhang

Submission with Condition - Another Dr. Sue Review

Hi boys and girls, I’m back with another opinion piece and who knows, maybe some valuable advice will come out of it.

I’m noticing a not-so-nice trend within our community. Unfortunately boys I’m going to come down on YOUR butts for this. It’s the unfortunate behavior of submission with condition and the really ironic thing is that for those of you who do this you’re actually cheating yourselves.

So many of you boys seem to see submission as being some sort of commodity that you can bargain with…news flash…it isn’t. When you start submitting with only your own gratification in mind you’ve just lost the point of submitting at all.

There seems to be some growing trend with you boys to only submit provided there is some sort of reward at the end of the tunnel. I’ve observed this not only in financial domination, which I would have to say is rampant with it, but also in real time as well.

Let me just say that even if you’re paying for your session if you’re going in to that session, any session, with a ‘what’s in it for me’ attitude you completely blow past the entire submissive experience. Now it’s just a client-provider relationship.

True submission is an act of selflessness, it comes with the attitude of ‘what can I do for you?’ with no strings attached. I discussed compersion in a previous article about submission Are You a Sub or Not. Compersion is the joy created from a selfless act that brings another joy, relief or happiness.

I was speaking with a client of mine who had an epiphany one day when he realized that he was essentially wasting his own time by having expectations in his relationship with his Domme. He couldn’t figure out why he felt empty and why the whole experience lacked any real ‘feeling’. Then it dawned on him that he was going in to it the wrong way the whole time. He had been one of these guys who jumped around from Domme to Domme always looking for greener pastures until he realized that it wasn’t greener pastures he was looking for. That in fact his pasture was as green as could be but it was HE who through his expectations of ‘what do I get?’ was completely missing the entire submissive experience. He changed his outlook and started submitting with zero expectation, relying only on the act of pleasing with no reward and he finally found his Utopia.

So many of you subbie boys go in to this with a ‘well I just sent you a gift off of your wishlist so send me a pic of your hooters’ attitude that you are defeating the purpose of submitting in the first place. Of course you feel empty afterwards, you weren’t giving from a selfless place you didn’t get to experience compersion and only until you reach that point of pleasing with no expectation will you stop feeling like your submission is boring or that your Domme is just greedy.

Here’s perhaps a more compelling story that was told to me by a slave of mine. He heard the story of a Domme who had been in a horrible car accident. Her friend, also a Domme, gave her the use of her best slave during her convalescence. This slave did everything for her, ran her errands, did her housecleaning, made sure she ate properly and each day when his duties were finished he left quietly without any expectation of reciprocity. He just served, and was quite happy to do so.

Later, when the Domme was healthy and was back in true form both she and the slave’s actual owner secretly conceived of, and then delivered, a double Domme session with this every unsuspecting and now very happy slave. So you see? To serve without expectation of something in return usually will bring you great rewards anyway. Those of you who truly submit selflessly are the only boys and girls who can say they are truly submissive and know the feeling of servitude. So ask yourself this…do you serve with expectation or without?

Original Source: Submission with Condition

Ten Fetish Films you Shouldn’t Miss

Whether you can’t get enough of the notorious Bettie Page or you drool over James Spader, you’ll find something to love in our list of top ten fetish movies! Read on to find out more about the stand out fictitious films and fetish documentaries of the last 40 years and marvel at the amazing impact that fetish has had on cult culture and the mainstream media.

10. Histoire D’O (The Story of O) (1975)

Just Jaeckin’s very 70s looking movie is a gentle exploration of SM with plenty of soft focus thrown in. Based on the classic by Anne Desclos, which is also worth a read, the film is a fairly faithful adaptation that wraps the issues of domination, submission and sexuality into a manmade fibre paisley bow. There’s plenty to enjoy for the ironic hipster and if your partner’s up for it, lots of ‘do try this at home’ ideas for afterwards.

9. Mano Destra (1986)

This short movie is a rite of passage amongst bondage fans and features fifty minutes of beautifully shot black and white footage packed with fetish iconography and lesbian bondage. Cleo Uebelmann directs and also stars as the movie’s lead dominatrix in what’s now a film full of fairly familiar images, but was in fact the first of its kind.

8. Venus in Furs (1969)

Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, the man whose name gave us the term ‘masochism’, was the author of Venus in Furs, which has been made into a movie five times since it was published. One of the best attempts was in 1969 by director Jess Franco. The story of a female dominatrix and male submissive addresses the issue of who is really in control within a BDSM relationship and although the content is pretty tame by today’s standards it’s interesting finding out how SM was viewed all those decades ago.

7. The Notorious Bettie Page (2005)

This biographical movie tells the story of possibly the most famous fetish figure in history. Bettie page is a global icon who had a huge effect on both the fetish scene and popular culture. This film depicts her life and her relationship with the photographers who brought her to fame. Whilst the movie is slow in places and not entirely accurate, it’s packed full of incredible outfits and unforgettable images of the beautiful Gretchen Mol cavorting in vintage bondage gear.

6. Secretary (2002)

This odd offering from director Steven Shainberg ended up becoming a surprise hit and showed that ‘the masses’ were perhaps a lot more open to a little bedroom eccentricity than they like to let on. The film tells the tale of dominant boss James Spader and his submissive secretary Maggie Gyllenhall and the strange but in the end uplifting relationship that develops between them as they realise each others proclivities and an elaborate SM relationship develops.

5. Gwendoline (1984)

Just Jaekin, who also made Emanuelle and The Story of O which appears on this list, based this movie on characters from the canon of famed fetish artist John Willie. Whilst the film’s images and characters could never live up to Willie’s immaculate creations, there are some amazing costumes and impressively elaborate machinery, such as the dungeon furniture, which are worth seeing. This movie may have a pretty silly plot but it’s ideal for a late night watch with a few drinks.

4. Fetishes (1996)

When you watch this Nick Broomfield documentary it’s hard to believe that they actually showed it on TV. Whilst the media is saturated with sexual imagery Broomfield’s celebrated exploration of the world of fetish and SM would be rejected by most channels today. The documentary is set in one of New York’s most well-known role-play, dungeon, BDSM themed establishments and features interviews with clients and staff as well as some eye opening insights into the things that go on behind the scenes, including one particularly memorable moment involving a penis, a loo roll tube and some sand paper – you do the maths!

 3. Maitresse (1976)

If Gerard Depardieu floats your boat today then catch him in Maitresse where he’s incredibly young and incredibly sexy. The notorious 1976 movie was pretty hardcore at the time and scenes like a penis being nailed to a plank of wood and genuine whipping are still enough to raise an eyebrow today. Initially banned in Great Britain, the movie was not released uncut in this country until ten years ago. The plot centres around the chaos which ensures when Depardieu burgles the home/dungeon of a dominatrix and the two become embroiled in a passionate affair.

2. Preaching to the Perverted (1997)

This 1997 Stuart Urban movie centres on the London fetish scene and follows a group of characters as they visit various clubs and parties. Starring several familiar faces on British TV, this movie is fun to watch simply to spot the stars of Casualty and The Royle Family in full fetish gear. But it’s also a fairly accurate portrayal of the scene at the time. It’s also packed with real fetish enthusiasts some of whom you may recognise if you’re a regular on the scene.

1. Dressing for Pleasure (1977)

Possibly the best fetish documentary ever made, Dressing for Pleasure is packed with amazing footage of pre 80s fetish lovers at clubs, parties and on the scene. Directed by John Samson, the film pays homage to the ‘Sex’ shop owned by John Lydon and Vivienne Westwood and shows the enormous influence that ‘Sex’ had on the current UK fetish scene. For fetish fans who want to know where it all began, this film is the one to watch.


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Female Supremacy - The Dr. Sue Review

I’ve been asked a few times to write an article explaining my thoughts on female supremacy as well as just what the hell the concept is.

Female supremacy is simply the belief that women as a gender are far superior to men. Simple concept but you’ll find many people take great offense to that statement because of the way our society is structured.Female supremacy causes some very serious reactions from people so first off don’t kick the messenger. However that said I would consider myself a female supremacist.

I don’t want this to turn into a pissing match so I will qualify everything I’m saying from this point on by saying that this is all MY OPINION. The fantastic part of life is that we all have differing opinions and differing tastes. If we all liked the same thing life would be boring and very slow. Nothing new would be developed, nothing would change so I have no problem with anyone who has a different view, all I ask is to open your mind just a wee tiny bit.

There are numerous studies which begin to expose the theory that women are genetically superior to males and if you want to read about that further I suggest you read Adam’s Curse: A Future without Men for starters. I’m not going to get into all of the medical aspects of this theory because it’s insanely technical and boring and I will assume that you will look into it further if you want to delve deeper into male genetic fallibility.

What I will go into are the signs all around you of the fact that men are inferior to women.

Almost all religions are male controlled. Most if not all wars have been religious based. More people have killed each other in the name of religion/war than anything else. In 2002 alone 172 thousand people died from wars. Gotta love that testosterone fueled ‘my way or the highway’ attitude.

Catholic priests are held to sexual standards that cannot be maintained, imposed by another male. I shouldn’t have to remind you how well that’s been working.

Men have been in control of most of corporate America including the banking system. Again, look around you, greed and aggression rule supreme with men.

The entire porn/stripper/escort/hooker industry is fueled by the male’s inability to control their sexual desires. So what have women done? Learned to feed that need and make money off of men’s weaknesses.

I’m not even going to go down the government road, again, that should be blatantly obvious.

I could go on but this should end somewhere and I’ll let you guys bark it out in the comments. Suffice it to say if it were up to me I would teach male children from a very young age that women are to be respected, obeyed, cherished, and put first in every aspect their lives. All men should be placed in chastity to control their sexual urges. All men should consider their lives to be only in service of women.

However, that said, I will also say that women need to put women first more as well. Remember a true female supremacist respects her fellow female. She doesn’t lower her, she doesn’t disparage her choices she uplifts. To put down another female for any reason just puts you in the realm of men. (But that’s another article)

Original Source:  http://thedrsuereview.com/female-supremacy/

Female Led Relationship: Enslave your man

How do you find a man who will abase and humiliate himself for your pleasure? You want a man who will remain naked at all times and lap your cunt on command. You want a man who will furnish his huge, hard cock for your pleasure rather than his. You want a man who will beg you to take him over your knees while you spank his ass to redness.

So you want a slave, but how do you get one? Well, you could dump the man you have and advertise in the alternative newspapers and on the internet. But what would you get? A wimp, a slob, a diseased pervert? A homicidal maniac? Who knows what's out there.

Be sensible! You've already got a man who appeals to you. You wouldn't be having sex with your husband or lover if you didn't find him appealing. You already know he hasn't any STDs to infect you. You know his cock is adequate and his body shape acceptable. There's your answer!

Enslave your lover. Convince him that he wants to grovel before you naked and beg to suck your clit and lick your twat. Convince him he wants to stand before you and whack off before swallowing his own jizz. Convince him he wants to serve you and your friends as you command.

"Ah," you say. "But how do I do this?" Well, that's what you'll learn by reading on. Remember that you have three things going for you. Like all men, he wants to please you to keep the sex coming. Like all men, he subconsciously is fascinated by the concept of a dominant, sex-crazed woman. Finally, like all men, if he can be made to feel guilty he'll do anything to get off the hook.

So here's the plan. There's got to be a special day in your lives coming up. Your birthday or anniversary, perhaps. It doesn't really have to be special so long as you can convince him you think it is. It must be a day you can make a convincing case that he should treat as special. Then you do your best to direct his mind away from remembering it. You want him to forget it, in fact. You're looking for guilt, not presents or dinner out.

When you've decided on the day, find some subtle way to have him spend the bulk of that day doing something for his own pleasure. Golf or a hunting trip with the boys would be great. The trick is that he must not be able to say you suggested it. Perhaps a girlfriend could suggest to her lover/husband that he invite your man to the diversion. (She may want you to return the favor later, especially when she comes to realize how happy you are after you have enslaved your man.) This other guy, of course, must be an innocent dupe.

So the day arrives. Off he goes, all unsuspecting, with a quick peck on your cheek. As he goes out the door, you holler after him "See you around 3:00", knowing full well there's no way he can be back before 5:00. The trap is about to be sprung. To be on the safe side, by 3:00 you've bathed and put on your costume.

Now is not the time for your domina outfit, but dress with a few surprises. A shirt without bra and a loose skirt without panties will be perfect for today's activities. If you often are pantless and braless, then go for some other scheme. Perhaps a naked twat framed by a grater belt, or crotchless panties. If your tits are often naked, then go for a bra with nipple holes or a shelf-bra. The idea is to startle and awe him when he suddenly realizes what you are wearing.

You should consider modifying your cunt hair. If you have an untrimmed bush, shape it. If it's already shaped, consider shaving it completely. If you already shave it, highlight it with lipstick. But do this only if it will give you a feeling of power when you later thrust your pussy in his face for adoration. After all, this is about you. Your poise during what is to follow is key.

Are you getting the picture? When he gets home you are going to throw him off balance. First with guilt and then with your lascivious demeanor, body and costume. Step by step you are going to get him to submit to your will. Today will not see him submitting to a butt-fucking by the husband of your next-door neighbor while your friends cheer, but today will be the start down that road.

Step by step you are going to reduce him to complete subservience. Do it right and he will worship your cunt in any way that you command. Fuck up and you are no worse off than you were-- advertisements are a fallback. Today is just the first baby steps towards his total subjection to cunt-slave, but you should have fun. He will too.

When he comes home lay on the guilt. This is no time to be the modern women. Play the poor, downtrodden helpless unreasonable female of the old-time movies. "Where have you been? You said you'd be home at 3:00 and it's nearly 5:00?"

Ignore his protestations that he said no such thing. Then lay on the forgotten special day. "How could you go off with the boys on the anniversary of our first date? (or whatever)" If you can shed a few tears as you work yourself into a feigned snit, all the better. No man can stand a crying woman. He'll soon be apologizing and trying to make amends.

Be inconsolable and direct the conversation. Eventually he'll feel guilty enough and upset enough at your distress that he'll suggest trying to make it up to you. That's your opening, but don't pounce-stalk. "How can you make it up?" He'll start to make suggestions, but none please you. In fact, the more he tries, the more unhappy you become because you deem his suggestions inadequate to the offense.

Eventually he must come around to saying "What do you want me to do?" This is not your chance. It's just the next opening-keep stalking. The answer to this question is essentially "As though you'd really do what I wanted!" This should get him protesting. "But I will do what you want!" Keep stalking even though your cunt is beginning to drip.

"Sure you will", with a stamp of the foot and a few more tears. "I'll ask you to do something you won't want to do and you won't do it." Now we're getting there! He's bound to say "Really, Honey, I'll do anything you want."

"Anything?"

"Sure, Honey, I'll do anything you want."

"I don't believe you," said with a snort and toss of the head.

By now he should be really desperate.

"But I will, honey, I'll do anything you want. I promise."

"Yah, but for how long? Two minutes? That won't make up for forgetting?"

"For the rest of the day, honey."

"Oh, you think doing what I want for one day will do it, buster! No way!" A few more tears of distress. Hold out for the promise of at least a weekend.

"Okay, honey, for the rest of the weekend I'll do anything you want, just please stop crying."

Through tears, "You really will do anything I want for the rest of the weekend?"

"Sure honey, I will. I promise!" He doesn't know yet that his ass will soon be red and his tongue will be working on your clit.

Pounce time!! "Then take off your clothes!" He will be so startled that he can't help but hesitate. Seize the moment. "Just as I thought. You say you'll do anything I want, but the first thing I ask for you renege!" This should be said in high dudgeon as you turn away from him and throw yourself on the couch in obvious anger and upset. Loud sobs on your behalf won't hurt.

"But why do you want me to take my clothes off?"

Turn on him.

"Look, buster, why isn't important. You said you'd do whatever I want. What I want you to do right now is take your clothes off. Do it or forget the whole thing. Either you live up to your promises or you don't." Stare determinedly at him. Now is not the time to tell him that he is about to become your cock-bearing, clit-lapping cunt-slave.

If he doesn't crumble, then it's back to advertising in the mags. Oh, but he will crumble if you've played it right to now. Not only does he want to make you stop crying, but he is secretly thrilled at the idea of stripping in front of you. And strip he does. First the shoes and socks come off. (Dull stuff, but necessary.) The shirt comes off next, and as he pulls it over his head his chest muscles and nipples appear and send a thrill through your cunt.

Next he unbuckles his belt as you stare arrogantly at him. Maybe he looks up at you. Stare him down, silently daring him to stop stripping. He drops his pants and steps out of them. If he's the man we think he is, by now his cock is straining against his underwear. Finally he slips them off, being careful to pull the waist-band out around his now straining, rock-hard cock.

Walk around him staring up and down at his body, particularly his cock. When he turns to follow you command him "Stand still!" Even better, demand that he spread his legs and put his hands behind his head with his elbows back.

After you have stared for a few seconds start pawing him. Don't go straight to the cock. Start with his shoulders, then his chest, then his butt. Brush your hands over his nipples. The move in front of him, grab his equipment firmly but not painfully, stare him in the eye and say, "The only way you're going to make it up to me is to be my sex slave for the rest of the weekend." I swear you'll feel his steel-hard tool get even harder.

Let go, step back and command him "Get on your knees, slave!" If he says "Yes, dear" as he complies tell him firmly "That's 'yes, mistress.'" Oops, his cock hardened some more. Standing as close to him as you can get and staring imperiously into his eyes very slowly and provocatively remove your shirt. If you've chosen right, he will sink another level into thrall.

Command him to remove your skirt. That should do it. Your beautiful cunt in a brand new form will be staring him in the face. Your cunt juices will be oozing and he will know you are hot for sex. Spread your legs and firmly grab his head and pull his mouth toward your eager cunt as you say with great authority "Suck my cunt, slave, and suck good!"

Now is no time to let ineptitude go unpunished. Move his head around to get his mouth and tongue in the right place. Give him instructions in a firm and imperious voice. "More tongue, slave! Flick your tongue faster, slave!" Whatever you want, direct him to do it. A man cannot resist a wanton woman.

Now remember. This is baby-step day. You don't want to push this too far. Don't make him tongue you for hours. Have yourself one little orgasm for now. It's the future you're playing for here. Eventually he can be made to tongue you for hours with a dildo up his ass after he's whacked off and eaten his own jizz if that's your heart's desire. But he's nowhere near ready for that yet. One step at a time, please!

One more step of subjugation before you reward him by riding his cock. It's spank-him time.

Pull away from his tongue and say "Good job, slave, but I haven't punished you yet for forgetting our special day." Sit down in the chair that you have thoughtfully kept nearby and demand, "Over my knees!"

He may balk, but it's unlikely since he has a rock-hard cock that wants nothing more than to ream your steaming pussy. And he knows that if he misbehaves it's over. After all, you've already cum and even if he knows you're multi-orgasmic he also knows you might quit on him. If he does balk, remind him of his deal and the consequences of reneging.

Either way he'll be over your knees in a flash with his hard cock pressing between your red-hot thighs. If you can, clamp his cock and balls between your delicious legs. It won't really hold him down, but it will give both of you a thrill. His thrill is only important in keeping him in line.

Now don't just start in beating his ass black and blue. At this point you're trying to enslave him, not hurt him. That comes much later. So keep the erotic tension going for him. Fondle his ass. Squirm a little so his cock and balls rub against your thighs. Squeeze and release the pressure on his balls. Then slowly, fondling in between blows, spank him.

The object is the maximum noise for the minimum pain. Today you don't want him blubbering, you want his jizz boiling in his balls. All you are doing today is humiliating him so that his innate perversity will make him an eager sex slave.

Talk to him while you are spanking. Use words and phrases that accentuate your superiority and his inferiority. "You've been a naughty little slave. Don't ever misbehave again." Give him a peek at the future, but don't get ahead of yourself "From now on I expect you to please me, slave. I'm going to expect lots of sex and on my terms. If you misbehave, you'll get more spankings. And from now on there will be no wearing of clothes in the house."

By now he may be cumming, so don't push it. Stop before you have a load of jizz in your lap. You want him eager to go, not deflated with a limp cock. At this point you can lead him by his hard pecker, but a soft one will be problematic.

Stop spanking him before it's too late. "In a few minutes you're going to use your cock to please me, slave. But I need a drink. Go get me a beer!" Believe me he'll scamper to the kitchen and bring you your favorite quaff. Make sure to stare at his cock and balls with a proprietary attitude as he returns. "Now go stand in the corner, naughty boy, while I have a drink. But make sure your cock will be ready when I want it."

If he faces into the corner, all to the good. If he doesn't order him to. Make sure he understands that he isn't to touch himself. The purpose here is twofold. You are still trying to humiliate and subjugate him. But you also want him to cool off a little. If you take his cock into your cunt now he'll come in two seconds. No fun for you and bad for his training.

When you think he's ready to be useful, command him "On your back, slave!" Use the bed if you must, but the floor is so much more degrading for him. Stand over him and let him look at your regal body with its firm tits and dripping cunt. Tell him what's about to happen. "I'm going to ride your cock, slave. Don't come until I tell you to, and when I do tell you to I want floods of jizz!"

Slowly and deliberately impale his cock in your cunt. If he tries to thrust, order him to stop. Make sure you're in command. This is where using your own man for a slave will prove useful. You know what rhythm works best for him. Avoid it until you want him to come. Use some other technique, one that will frustrate him for a while. You're teasing him into abject obedience. Have fun, but keep thinking. You must defer your ultimate pleasures until later. Right now you are capturing a slave, not making best use of one.

Order him to serve as your slave. Have him suck your nipples, but make him work to obey. Keep them high enough he must hold his head uncomfortably off the floor to obey. This will help keep his mind off his cock a little. Try to have a few quick orgasms, reminding him not to come. If you have to, now is a time to fake it if you must. (The future-keep your mind on the future.) Tell him what to do with his hands-rub your tits or ass.

Now at some point he will cum. You can order him not to all you want, but this man is not yet a slave. You've teased his cock for a good while and his jizz is boiling. So you must order him to cum just as he about to anyway. (See there are advantages to enslaving your own man, because you will know when that point arrives.)

The theory of training puppies, babies and sex-slaves is that you reward them for good behavior even when the good behavior was not intended. The puppy pees outside for no particular reason and you praise it. You are doing the same thing here. Eventually you want your slave to cum on command, but he hasn't a clue about that yet. He will learn. So just as you think he can go no longer you shout at him "Flood my cunt with your jizz, slave."

Oh, my, but he will comply. His orgasm will be one of the most intense of his life, especially if you cum too at a 60-decibel level. And guess what? He'll begin to equate this fantastic thrill he's just experienced with the belief that he did it because you ordered him to. Gotcha!

Relax. Praise your slave, but remind him that the weekend isn't over and you have more for him to do. If he's still young he'll be ready again soon. If he isn't young you should have ordered him to ingest a viagra before you got started.

Spend the rest of the time being sensuous, sexy, demanding, authoritative and horny. Do whatever it takes to see that he cums more times during this period of slavery than at any time in his life. Now you've really got him. He will equate his pleasure with your dominance.

Soon he'll lap when you order. He'll whack off on command and eat his own jizz even if it's for the entertainment of your bridge club. He'll do anything your heart or cunt desires even to sucking another man's cock and having a rock hard pecker shoved up his ass. It's all up to you. Slowly and carefully, eyes on the future.


Original Source: Female Led Relationship: Enslave your man: